Habits of Emotionally Healthy Couples

Do you ever see those older couples holding hands, laughing, and taking care of each other? Do you ever wonder how they managed to be married so long?  The answer is Relational Hygiene. Yes, Relational Hygiene.  Most of us have regular personal hygiene habits, like regularly brushing our teeth, showering, and laundering our clothes. We… Continue reading Habits of Emotionally Healthy Couples

Mother’s Day Feelings

One thing that is universally true is each of us has a mother. However, our relationships with our mothers are as diverse as we are.  For some they have a strong bond with their biological mother and can’t imagine their life without them. Others are estranged from their mothers and Mother’s Day celebrations are a deep cause… Continue reading Mother’s Day Feelings

What’s Hiding?

I once heard a comedian with an East Indian accent say, “Don’t travel alone in your own mind. It is a dangerous neighborhood, and you will get mugged.” That is certainly true for me.  When we don’t have enough information, we will fill in the blanks, especially when it has to do with protecting our… Continue reading What’s Hiding?

Mother Nature and Your Relationship

There is nothing wrong with you. Your relationship is not broken.  We each have developed conscious and unconscious coping strategies that sometimes create problems in our relationship. One of Mother Natures’ real tricks is that she usually pairs us with someone with the opposite coping strategy. The developer of Imago Relationship Therapy, Harville Hendrix, often… Continue reading Mother Nature and Your Relationship

Secrets of Successful Couples

Have you ever thought “how do I know if they are the one?” There must be some signs that will show me I am with the right person, right?Another Facebook friend of mine asked me the same thing. It’s complicated for sure but so much of it relies each being your authentic selves. I want to share a… Continue reading Secrets of Successful Couples

Stop Fighting

I asked you to send in problems that you are seeking advice for. My Facebook friend asked me “How do my partner and I make it through quarantine without fighting so much?” I have to say I think this one speaks to so many of us…I know it is something Kevin and I have been working… Continue reading Stop Fighting

You Are Not Your Partner

Sometimes I feel like my partner and I aren’t speaking the same language. I wonder how it is possible that he can think so differently from me. How in the world did we even get together in the first place? We are so different! IMAGO creators Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt posted this explanation that… Continue reading You Are Not Your Partner

And, a Happy New Year!

As 2020 ends, we can look toward 2021 with renewed hope for peace andwellness for our planet and its inhabitants.  I know I have big expectations for this year. How about you? Every year, I choose a quality that I’d like to develop more fully. For the lasttwo years, I focused on ‘Grace’ I needed extra time… Continue reading And, a Happy New Year!

Seasons Greetings

We are heading into the holiday season. It will probably look different in many ways this year but we will still be connecting with friends and family. This can be a happy time for many however, if you have experienced a strain in your relationships this season can exacerbate those emotions. I would like to… Continue reading Seasons Greetings

Thankful For You

I feel so full of gratitude.  I know what you are thinking – this year has been a roller coaster! It is hard to feel thankful when there has been so much sadness and stress. I started this year with so much promise like you but then the world came to a halt. With the… Continue reading Thankful For You